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How to have the relationships you want

Updated: Aug 13, 2023

The elements of a good relationship

Life is a collection of relationships with family, partners, co-workers, friends and teachers. A good relationship should include communication and collaboration; there should be a sense of acceptance, happiness or positive movement in the right direction. It should contain positive emotions like kindness, support, trust and joy.

Relationships can develop negative emotions, including resentment, anger, jealousy and fear, which makes them unhappy with a lack of communication and understanding.

Can a relationship be improved?

If you want to improve a relationship with negative behaviour caused by negative emotions, it is possible. Using PSYCH-K, NLP and Cognitive hypnotherapy, we can update your subconscious mind to have positive beliefs, which lead to positive behaviours.

When you believe in yourself and your value as a person, you become in control of your emotions instead of your feelings railroading you and your behaviour. You can act and react with logic and emotion, feel calm and look for solutions to problems as you think positively and powerfully with good self-esteem.

Even if you believe the other person is the problem in the relationship, if you feel and act differently, that person will respond differently to you, which includes communicating differently. ‘Be the change you want to see in the world.

Overcome a death, trauma or breakup.

If a situation from your past is holding you back from experiencing peace or moving forward with your life, then we can change how you feel. Using PSYCH-K, we can update your subconscious perception of any event, person or experience that will leave you feeling peace rather than grief, trauma, sadness, anger or any other negative emotion. Your memories will not change, but your subconscious perception of that event will change, which will cause you to feel at peace.

This transformation can be life-changing, and it means that you are less affected by the situation and that it comes to mind much, much less than it once did, if at all. People often describe how they feel after this process with phrases like:

'I can think of it without crying or feeling upset.'

'I'm not upset by it anymore.'

'I never think of it.'

Finish a relationship

Sometimes a relationship is unhealthy and needs to end. People in this situation usually know this is true, but doubts and their situation make them unable to leave. Maybe they believe that the relationship could improve, or their partner will change, or they doubt that they will find happiness or safety elsewhere.

'The subconscious mind will always choose the certainly of unhappiness over the uncertainty of happiness.'

This phrase means subconscious inherently likes familiarity because it feels safe. It doesn't like change and uncertainty, even if these are the things that precede happiness and joy.

This part of your mind influences you with feelings of doubt and persuades you to stay where you are. We can change those beliefs to:

'Everything will be ok.'

'I am a worthwhile person.'

'I can do this.'

'Opportunity awaits on the other side of adversity.'

Stop sabotaging a relationship.

If you recognise a pattern, including always choosing the wrong partner or constantly pushing the right person away, then you can change these recurrent cycles of behaviour. After the initial excitement, you may realise this partner is treating you poorly, perhaps like a previous partner did. The feelings of low self-worth appear, or you are made to feel responsible, yet you still need to hang on to them. Or feelings that lead to sabotaging behaviours, when they have no logical basis, include jealousy and insecurity.

Start a relationship

If you want to find a special person, then consider

  • Am I meeting/talking to people?

  • If not, what thoughts or reasons are holding you back?

  • If I am meeting people, what subconscious signals am I giving off?

  • What would happen if I met someone? Is there a fear or worry about it?

Confidence, self-esteem or historical experiences could influence the outcome, and we can change these together.



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