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How to have the relationships you want

The elements of a good relationship

Life is a collection of relationships with family, partners, co-workers, friends, teachers… A good relationship should include communication and collaboration, there should be a sense of acceptance, happiness or positive movement in the right direction. It should contain positive emotions like honesty, kindness, support, trust and happiness.


Negative behaviour can creep in

Relationships can sometimes contain more negative emotions including resentment, anger, unhappiness, jealousy, fear or a lack of communication/understanding. Negative emotions cause negative behaviours such as arguing, resentful actions or failure to communicate. The relationship can cease to feel rewarding or that it is achieving anything purposeful.

So can we change things? Yes, absolutely.



Improve a relationship

If you want to improve a relationship that has negative behaviour caused by negative emotions, then together, we can. We update your subconscious mind to have positive beliefs, which lead to positive behaviours.


When you believe in yourself, your abilities and in your value as a person you become in control of your emotions, as opposed to your emotions railroading you and your behaviour. You can act and react with both logic and emotion, feel calm and look for solutions to problems because you feel positive and strong with good self-esteem.


Even if you believe the other person is the problem in the relationship, by making you feel and act differently that person will respond differently which includes communicating differently. ‘Be the change you want to see in the world’


Overcome a death, trauma, breakup…

If there is a situation from your past that is holding you back from experiencing peace or moving forward with your life then we can change the way you feel. Using PSYCH-K we can update your subconscious minds perception of any event, person or experience. This will leave you with a feeling of peace rather than grief, trauma, sadness, anger or any other negative emotion. The memory will not be changed, only your minds perception of it.


This can be life-changing and it means that you are less affected by the situation and that it comes to mind much, much less than it once did, if at all. People often describe how they feel after this process with phrases like:


‘I can think of it without crying or feeling upset’

‘I’m just not that bothered about it anymore’,

‘ I hardly ever think of it and if I do it’s easy to think of something else’


Finish a relationship

Sometimes a relationship is unhealthy and needs to end. People in this situation usually know this is true but doubts and their situation make them feel unable to leave. Maybe they believe that the relationship could get better, or their partner will change, or they doubt that they will find any happiness or safety elsewhere.


‘The subconscious mind will always choose the certainly of unhappiness over the uncertainty of happiness’


This phrase means subconscious inherently likes familiarity because it feels safe. It doesn’t like change and uncertainly, even if these are the things that precede happiness and joy.


This part of your mind influences you with feelings of doubt and persuades you to stay where you are. We can change those beliefs to:


‘Everything will be ok’

‘I am a worthwhile person'

I can do this’

'Opportunity awaits on the other side of adversity'



Stop sabotaging a relationship

If you recognise a pattern including always choosing the wrong partner or always pushing the right person away then we can change these recurrent cycles of behaviour. After the initial excitement you may realise this partner is treating you badly, perhaps like a previous partner did. The feelings of low self-worth appear or you are made to feel responsible, yet you still feel a need to hang on to them. Or feelings that lead to sabotaging behaviours, when they have no logical basis, include jealousy and insecurity.


Start a relationship

If you want to find a special person then think about?

  • Am I meeting/talking to people?

  • If I am meeting people, do I fail to attract/meet the right type of person?

Confidence, self-esteem or historical experiences could be influencing the outcome and together we can change these.


‘For every Jock, there’s a Jean’

this is an old Scottish phrase that means for every man, there is a woman, or there is a someone for everyone.

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Samantha Gant is a member of the CNHC
Samatha Grant is a Quest Cognitive Hpnotherapy graduate
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Samantha Grant is a member of the Hypnotherapy Directory